Anyone who has a child attending Kindergarten to Grade 3 at Lewisporte Academy has probably heard about WITS.
WITS stands for Walk Away, Ignore, Talk It Out and Seek Help, a conflict resolution program launched at the school to help students learn how to deal with bullying and conflict. It also taught them that it’s OK to ask for help to deal with issues they can’t resolve on their own.
It was a great presentation. RCMP Const. Andre Sparkes read the story of WITSup the Walrus to the students and made them special constables with the help of community volunteers.
WITS is a great program and I’m hoping the LEADS (Grade 4-6 program) will be introduced next year and my daughters will be able to take part.
Sitting at my desk writing about the event got me thinking that WITS isn’t just for children, but I use it all the time as an adult.
Let me explain.
W — Walk away. Let’s all be honest, I mean really honest. How many times have you had a disagreement with your partner, thrown your hands in the air and just walked away from them? Walking away was the alternative to saying something you would probably regret in the long run. And when you cool down, you realize how happy you are you did walk away.
I — Ignore. Ever bite your tongue because you didn’t want to explode? Sometimes it’s easier to ignore the person who’s bothering you than deal with them even as a grown up.
T — Talk it out. Want to get to the root of your problems? Then you need to let the person know what’s bothering you. But you also need to be able to listen to what the other person is saying. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship and not just in marriages, but also between friends, co-workers and others.
S — Seek help. This one takes courage if you are a child. This one takes courage if you’re an adult. Seeking help means you’ve been down every other road and have met a dead end, but it in no way means failure. Seeking help means admitting we have a problem and sometimes that means swallowing your pride, especially as an adult. But sometimes it’s the only way to solve problems.
I guess you could say attending the WITS launch at the school was eye opening for me, as an adult who faces things every day — not in the same capacity as students, but in the same capacity as other adults.
Maybe the next time you’re faced with a problem, you could keep your WITS about you and find a satisfying solution.